Men's Conferences are a GREAT start

Peace Brothers! I have been attending many Catholic Men’s Conferences this year. Little Rock, AR. Austin Texas. Keller Texas. This week I will be in Oklahoma City! I attend as a vendor and soon as a speaker. Here’s my message to ALL Men attending a conference- and even those who are not!

The conference for many is the beginning of something new. It creates a spark and they do something different! A few of those men will actually join the Men’s group at their Parish. Which is GREAT! Others will make some attempt at more prayer, reading scripture, getting to Mass more, etc…. they will attempt this ALONE. Bad idea. Alone is part of the problem, lone wolf mentality is destroying men’s masculinity. So my 1st point is DO NOT DO THIS BY YOURSELF.

Back to those joining the men’s group. Why are you joining? What is going on in your life that you are trying to FIX? As Men we want to fix everything…. 2nd message: YOU ARE NOT BROKEN! Going to Mass, Reconciliation, Eucharist, Adoration and joining the Men’s group is a baseline that ALL men should be doing. This is because we ALL need to grow as Men. It takes effort. It takes energy. It takes investing in yourself. It takes being around other men on the same journey. You want to be a WARRIOR? Hang out with other WARRIOIRS!

Men today have many struggles, some they can see and others they can’t. Relationship issues? How many of you point at your wife and say “but She……., She doesn’t love me…..She hides from me…..She is always on her phone……She won’t have sex with me…. “ and on and on. Time to take a look in the mirror and take responsibility for your part. NOT blame or shame or guilt. Just take responsibility. Then take action. 3rd Message: Do whatever it takes! What does that mean Coach? It means some men need a 12 step program like yesterday. Some men need to be in deep therapy. Some men need a Coach/Mentor! Men should not be joining the men’s group believing it will FIX everything. MOST of the men joining also need….______________ (fill in the blank)

We are Made of 3 parts. Physical. Emotional. Spiritual. Joining the Mens group helps support your spiritual growth! Congrats! What are you doing for your physical and emotional parts? Pizza? The couch? Lots of ice cream? Holding onto resentments? Dragging around hurts/wounds/trauma? Mommy and Daddy issues? Physically/emotionally/sexually abused when you where younger? This is why I suggest you take at look at what you need and get busy. Take action. Make that appointment. Find that meeting. Engage with a coach/mentor. Which do you need? ALL OF THE ABOVE.